The mind and heart are perennially on some sort of disagreement. Hence in this cat fight, the pen wins.
I've had a take on love for quite some time now, it alters a bit every year or so, but hasn't really gone through any catastrophic changes as such.
I never thought it was magical..never experienced the sorts wherein everything around you suddenly becomes pink (read beautiful). Also stuffing in your feelings for one person in one bag called 'love' seems like a tiresome task to me. I would want the freedom to like, dislike, adore, lust, empathise, admire, respect etc and not behave in a certain way in the name of 'love'.
So love in its truest form has to be freedom. But not the loner kind of freedom. The kind of freedom that lets you be completely and 100% 'you at your best' around that one person.
Love has to be expression. The urge to express yourself and the satisfaction of being understood. The comfort of being able to undress emotionally, mentally, physically in his/her presence.
Love has to be compassion, without having to speak up at all times.
Love has to be bright...not pink necessarily... But bright.
Does love lead to a relationship, or do you find love in a relationship is a paradox with its various inferences that I am yet to fathom.
The problem with any relationship lies in the mismatch between reality and expectations. While one solution to this could be to voice your expectations accurately, but the worst thing to happen is when you yourself aren't sure about them, and the only thing you know is that you aren't liking what you are getting.
While you might be willing to make additions to your life for your new relationship, the difficult part is to make changes. And that's a thin line to deal with. Keeping your shoes in place, is it a change or adding order in your life? Something new in the menu is it a change in your culinary preferences or is it adding some flavour?
Are these changes an effort? Is it worth the effort? What is in it for you?
The answers to all the questions are subjective. Not knowing the answer sometimes is fine, but do you at least feel the need to find the answers?
The problem with any relationship lies in the mismatch between reality and expectations. While one solution to this could be to voice your expectations accurately, but the worst thing to happen is when you yourself aren't sure about them, and the only thing you know is that you aren't liking what you are getting.
While you might be willing to make additions to your life for your new relationship, the difficult part is to make changes. And that's a thin line to deal with. Keeping your shoes in place, is it a change or adding order in your life? Something new in the menu is it a change in your culinary preferences or is it adding some flavour?
Are these changes an effort? Is it worth the effort? What is in it for you?
The answers to all the questions are subjective. Not knowing the answer sometimes is fine, but do you at least feel the need to find the answers?
If the answer is yes..well..welcome to my world.
PS - Apologies if you came looking for answers.
